My boyfriend gave me a gift, but we didn't do anything special for my birthday. Should I be upset?

I am in a very happy long distance relationship and it is my 30th birthday tomorrow. My boyfriend came for the weekend. He gave me a really sweet card and flowers for Valentine%26#039;s day and a lovely gift for my birthday. We agreed that we would celebrate my birthday on the Saturday night. I realised when he arrived that he hadn%26#039;t planned anything for the Saturday night and I was a little disappointed. I tried to drop hints like ...perhaps we can go here or there.. I don%26#039;t think I should have to do that for my birthday. I know that he didn%26#039;t mean to be careless, but I was really quite upset. I had expected to have a special time with him. This doesn%26#039;t necessarily mean that I would like him to spend money. He has done nice things for me before (eg. picnic, cook dinner etc..).





Am I being unreasonable?


Thanks for your comments. :)

My boyfriend gave me a gift, but we didn%26#039;t do anything special for my birthday. Should I be upset?
I would tell him that you would like to do something for your birthday and what you want to do. When you are doing it just tell him that next year you would like him to surprise you with something he would like to do for you on your birthday. You can%26#039;t get mad if he doesn%26#039;t know what you would like. I don%26#039;t think he can read your mind. So communication is the best. Besides most guys are not good with doing special things like this for a woman so drop lots of hints or just plan tell him. Hope this helps you and GOOD LUCK!!
Reply:Why should he plan everything for YOUR birthday?


It%26#039;s just like the Chinese saying, you give someone an inch, they want a foot.
Reply:If you feel that you should be upset, then be upset.


If you feel that you shouldn%26#039;t be upset, then don%26#039;t be.





In my opinion, long-distance relationships are a waste of time and effort, though. I would much rather have someone who is close by so we can see each other, not just talk to each other.
Reply:I would think that having a long distance relationship, you would be happy just to spend time with your boyfriend. I think it he was happy just to be there with you, and was probably very proud of the gifts he got you for Valentine%26#039;s Day and your birthday. Some people who have closer relationships, distance wise, don%26#039;t even get that. Don%26#039;t be ruining what sounds like a nice relationship. Doing things long distance is hard enough. Be glad you have someone! :o)
Reply:SOULD I BE UPSET ?


ha! if u r upset , then b it!


don%26#039;t ask us 2 tell u to be upset, u silly billy!
Reply:Yes, you are being unreasonable. Besides the fact he came to you for the weekend, he brought flowers, card and a present. Just because he didn%26#039;t plan an evening out doesn%26#039;t mean he wasn%26#039;t think about you. It could be that he didn%26#039;t have time, couldn%26#039;t come up with anything creative or just wanted to spend time with you alone. Focus on the big picture and what he did DO instead of didn%26#039;t do.
Reply:He took the trouble to buy you gifts. I think that is enough. You could have just said, let%26#039;s go out somewhere - you don%26#039;t have to leave it to him. Or you could have cooked a special dinner.I think it is a mistake to expect to be spoiled too much by men as they don%26#039;t generally behave like that and, let%26#039;s face it, you are a big girl and your boyfriend is not your daddy.
Reply:Well although I personally don%26#039;t think that lond distance relationships are good.Sometimes they work out better than ones that are local.I think that him giving you a gift and then going to see you is already great! What better gift then your sweety take the time to travel and go see you,that right there is better than 100 gifts. But I think that you should have open communication where you should of told him that you wanted to go somewhere. He was in your territory so you could have picked where to go or between the both decided.TRust me girl don%26#039;t be upset at something so small.He was there with you and I think that is what count.If you have any doubt just tell him.



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